Life, Personal, Uncategorized

Why I don’t wear a bra


It’s been a month now since I’d completely stop wearing bras (with the exception of sports bra) and I feel really good. So this post will revolve all about the reasons for this decision. What inspired me to push this and what’s my stance on it. You may or may not agree with what I will say but I wish you’d just be at least open to the idea of it. The world is changing and we must adapt to the changes because that’s how life is. So here it goes…

One of the reasons for my decision is that it’s uncomfortable. No, I don’t wear bras that are too small or too big for me. They’re just really uncomfortable. Throughout the day while I’m at the office, it makes me feel super uneasy sitting there and doing work with this annoying and suffocating-feeling. I know some of you might say, hindi ka na ba nasanay or you’ve got to be used to wearing a bra by now! Yeah right, because I’ve been wearing bras since I was around 12 or 13 years olf which makes it around 10-11 years? Well nope, I’m not used to it.

Secondly, back then I didn’t really have a choice. It was somehow mandatory before. Of course with school and college, it seemed to be what people call as normal. But growing up and becoming an adult, I somehow realized that the things we do are because of what people expect us to do and as a result, we just follow them to please them. I’m so sick of the fact that we do certain things because that’s what everyone is doing. Life is about the choices we make and that’s what makes life so wonderful. But how can we have a colourful life, when we’re just following what the other people are doing?

The third reason is health. I want to take care of my boobs, they’re very important to me and as a woman, it’s one of our assets. According to certain research, bras provide no benefits to the boobs in general and may also be harmful over time especially due to the underwire and push-ups foams used. Breasts are actually great things, they can handle themselves on their own because they have their own muscles to carry themselves. And with bras, boobs become independent to it and the boob muscles have no sense anymore which in the long run, can result to saggy boobs. So the purpose of going braless is to let the muscles do their job.

The fourth reason is bras are overrated. Through the years, it has evolved as a fashion to women. Drastic developments have been done to bras, with push-ups, bling-bling and all that. It’s clearly too much. And that could also be blamed on advertising (yes, it’s contradicting to my line of work) because over the years they’ve created an image that bras are an accessory and not as a need. Media has certainly played a big role in changing the perspective of people which is kind of disappointing especially to be part of this industry. In which I am also blessed to be part of this industry because it gives me the opportunity to have a say in it other than just keeping it to myself.

These are just some of my reasons and it may have no sense to some but it’s important to me. Boobs are part of our bodies, whether you’re a man or a woman. It’s just like our arms, legs, toes or fingers. They’re there, they exist and we all have them. So why are we so afraid to be comfortable around them? I want you to be comfortable with yourself. I’m not saying that you should also follow me and not wear a bra. But I encourage you to be who you are and follow what you want to be. Not generally with wearing a bra but with your life. My decision for not wearing a bra is just one step of the bigger picture. It’s time you did something you want and for yourself.


Food, Life, Love, Personal

#TipidTips: Top 5 Budget-friendly Couple Date Ideas

Ever since I started working in Brunei, all I’ve always looked forward to is weekends. I could take a break and rest, catch up on the latest movies, go out and have date nights with my fiancé. Because who doesn’t love weekends? We work our butts from Mondays to Saturdays and only have Sundays as day offs, and sometimes the weekend just flies by without doing anything fun at all. Then here comes Monday (again) and we wished we could’ve done something productive and fun!  So here I will be sharing to you some of the things we personally do as a couple for dates that are all budget-friendly!

Movie Marathon (or TV-Series)

One of the commonalities my fiancé and I have is our taste in movies, we both like action and comedy types of movies. And watching movies or our favorite TV series is always our go-to date night idea. All you have to prepare is your favorite chips (or popcorn) and drinks! We personally like to try out different kinds of chips that we can find at the grocery (mostly the cheap ones) and we make our own dips at home. And we often opt for fruit juices for drinks like; pineapple juice or orange juices. Since both of us are not really a fan of soft drinks. Or just go for water if you’re really on a tight budget!

Cook together

As a couple, our favourite dish is pasta. And we all know that legit-tasting pasta is kind of pricey especially in restaurants. So most of the time, we end up cooking our favourite foods at home just to satisfy our cravings. Since it is actually much cheaper when you cook (and usually a lot of leftovers for the next day) I love to cook and bake, so this is one of my favourite date night idea, because you can bond, learn new things about each other and have fun.

If neither of you know how to cook, there is always Google and YouTube! And up to this day, if we want to eat something but don’t want to spend much( we’d rather save than splurge) we just search for the ingredients and procedures online and make them at home. It’s cheaper and healthier! (because you can control the ingredients put into the food)


There is certainly no harm in window-shopping! Since we are engaged, we recently love going to department stores and check out stuffs that we would want for our future house together. Like looking at pots and pans, pillows, bed sheets, house decors etc. Our recent favourite place to do window shopping is GRÂND, which is basically filled with Ikea products and also Japan-Home like products. Take note not to be tempted to buy anything after you’ve gone window-shopping! Yes it’s so difficult! But if you must buy, (which is not anymore window-shopping LOL) make sure you’re actually going to use it.


Weekends are perfect for picnics, especially on Sunday mornings (or during holidays). My fiancé and I have done this quite a few times and have breakfast picnic by the beach. We’d wake up very early in the morning and prepare breakfast and hopefully reach the beach before the sun rises. Usually we prepare some sandwiches (or sometimes fried rice), sausages, eggs and instant mee goreng. Or basically any breakfast food we could find at home that are easy to cook. Some beaches here in Brunei provides small cottages that are free to occupy by all but we’d prefer be under the trees (it’s much more romantic and closer to the ocean). That is why we always bring a mat/cloth that is big enough to sit on by the two of us.

Teaching each other something new

This can be anything. You can teach each other how to play a certain game, teach your girl how to play basketball or in my case learn how to drive. For the past months my fiancé has been teaching me how to drive. Every Sunday before we go off somewhere he would ask me to drive around the house a few times, so that I could learn the basics in driving. It’s a perfect bonding moment for couples to discover new things about each other and it makes the foundation of the relationship even stronger. Because you have to have trust in each other to do this. Like in my case, my fiancé trusted me that I could drive even if I didn’t have the faith in myself that I could do it. And eventually I got the courage to pull myself together that I could do it and it’s my current favourite bonding time that I look forward to every week.

So there you have it, My top 5 budget friendly couple date ideas! I want to give a shout out  to my fiancé for being my number one supporter since day 1! (HI BABY!)

I hope you got a little inspiration and some ideas on what to do with your significant other this weekend for your date. So, what are you waiting for, share this blog post on your social media and tag your S.O!

Have a great day! See you soon!



Fitness, Life

#BalikAlindogProgram (Week One)

A few weeks ago it struck me that my body isn’t in the best shape compared to what it was 3 years ago! Omg. So this time, I have decided to finally start working out again. But this time, I wanted to write and blog about it. So I could keep track of my progress and also look back and see the change that will happen. Not just changes physically, but also about my personality and my emotions.

Let me tell you about the work out I’ll be doing. It’s called Insanity Max 30.

 “The Craziest 30 minutes of your day will get you the best results of your life”

Insanity Max 30 is a 60 day fitness program created by Shaun T. It is divided into two months of different sets of workouts, each lasting for 30 minutes. It is not a short version of the original Insanity workout. It is entirely something else because there are new concepts, moves and modifications.

At first, you might only make it through 3 minutes (and believe me even that will be an accomplishment). That means 3:00 is your MAX OUT time.

Next time you do the workout, try to push that time just 30 seconds longer. If you can make 30 seconds of progress every day for 60 days, at the end of 60 days, you will make it all the way to MAX 30. And when that happens—trust me…you’re going to feel—and look—like a freakin’ fitness god.

I’ve been doing Insanity (the first version) for years and it always showed me great improvements in my body especially in the mid-section. I’ve seen my body react to the workout that I’ve shed so much weight that I became a size 12 from a size 18. I could fit into my old clothes and easily mix- match what I want to wear.

I guess back then what really motivated me to really push and dig deeper was because there was a little voice inside of me that wanted to prove to myself and to show the people around me that I could do it. And another factor that I think helped to get thru it because I got my heart broken! Hahaha! I’m not suggesting that to lose weight you have to get your heart broken first. No, no, no! What I’m saying is, this is what I personally experienced and it had a great outcome. And that it really is up to you to push yourself to the limits and just dig deeper.

Fast forward to the present,  I gained back the weight. Oh yes, it’s really good to eat. Well who doesn’t enjoy eating? However as I look at myself,  I miss that little voice inside of me that says to push harder. I miss being drenched in sweat and not caring at all. I miss those mornings where the first thing that crosses my mind is to find time to work out because my body is so used to it already. I miss my body feeling pain and soreness especially before going to bed, because it means its working. I miss it when I encounter old friends in public places and saying how beautiful and good I look. I miss those moments when I wear my clothes and most of them are so loose that I have to figure out a way to make them fit me, not in frustration but in joy and gladness. Because it shows that I am losing weight.

So 2 weeks ago, March 13 2017, at 264 pounds (now you know my weight). I started this journey to work out again.

The first day is the most crucial part and it was crazy.

The work out that I did was called Cardio Challenge. During the first few minutes it was fine because my body was still warming up. But  as time went by it was becoming more and more difficult. The good thing about Insanity Max 30 is that, there is a modifier that you can follow. The modifier executes simpler movements with less impact but it still does the job. Personally, I like to switch workouts from the modifier to Shaun T. But when it gets so intense I’d just follow the modifier all the way. Take note that following the modifier still needs a lot of work and you will still be sweating a lot.

The whole first week was intense and by the 4th day I could feel my body reacting. Waking up in the morning, I could feel my abs working. They were sore but it felt good and it made me happy.

The schedule of my work out is from Mondays to Fridays. It’s only a 30 minutes a day and 5 days a week, but there is an option for a 6th day wherein you can do Pulse. But for now, I opt not to since my body is still adjusting to it. I work out after I come home from work, I usually start at around 6:30-7:00 pm. Since I work out after work, sometimes my body and mind is too tired that I end up not exerting much effort in working out and I ended up skipping a few workouts. And I think that is acceptable. As long as you put in mind that you have to do better next time. But all in all, the first week was a success.

However my second week was a failure. I wasn’t able to continue the second week due to work loads. I was so busy at work that when I get home, my mind and body is just too exhausted. I thought of taking a break because my body was so tired from the event we had on the weekend and also outdoor shoots. And if I still worked out, I might pass out. While writing this I realized that this doesn’t make me look weak but it makes me strong. Because it challenges me to push through with it more and more each day and to continue with my journey. There might be speed bumps along the way but I know I can do it. I’ll take care of my body, because it is the only body we will ever have in our entire lives.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you can support me and cheer on me on this journey of mine.

See you on the next blog post! Watch out for; #BalikAlindogProgram (Week 2)

Always take care!